If you are divorced, you painful Father. You may think you are, because you do not lose the opportunity for full-time, best father, his children. In fact this is not true. In fact, probably the opposite. You have the possibility of a better father now.
Most parents considering divorce to worry about the impact on their children. However, in my clinical experience, there is the possibility that the relationship of a father with his children could be improved if it did not. In daily contact with his wife
Many men say that to avoid actual conflicts and tensions with their wives, they are not too late to go home, continue to avoid. But it also means they do not see their children.
So this is a benefit of other places where they live, in fact, spend more time with their children. If they have downtime on a regular basis, they bother to look for their children, and it is easier to do when they leave, they removed the face of his wife.
Another advantage, especially when children spend time with Father blocks, he is the only father present. This means it is responsible for homework, doctor visits, extra-curricular activities. It can get their friends through the master bedroom or do-overs driver. He can know their lives.
Sure, it would be better if parents resolve their problems, but if not, divorce is bad. Long-term follow-up study of children of divorce is what I put in my office. Divorce is safe for children – is a parenting relationship during a divorce, and that makes the difference. If parents can separate a respectful way children will not suffer.
Many children tell me he loves with his father after the divorce. There is more involved, more fun.
So today, the father, and at least one or two weeks, you need to take time separately with each of your children. Then you can give full attention to each of you and get to know them individually. This is very important because if separation / hostile divorce, children can have their flaws. With them, they can not ignore or gangs. You have a better chance to get to know them – and they can – if you do not have to deal with several children at once.